Women dating and money
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think that the man should pay up to date, say.... If you're getting drinks and things like that, yeah- pay for a round.
But I do believe in courtship, and that men like a chase, and part of being pursued is monetary. I dated a guy once with whom there was a big financial gap between us (read: he made way more money than I did) and he was fine paying for everything. So we created something called "Sugar Mama Sundays" where I would pay for everything on Sundays when we went out.
But after that, if you continue to let a guy pay for everything, you're taking advantage of them. It became kind of funny, and ended up working out to both our benefit.
Guys can't pay for everything forever, and if you're allowing that to happen, that's the signal you're sending. He wasn't resentful, and I didn't feel guilty. This can get complicated, and it isn't always 50-50.
When you get married-- do you have a joint bank account?When it comes to rent its mostly about having open and honest communication about what you both think is fair and within your budget so that neither of you have resentment or guilt when it comes to finances. It might be a good idea to keep a spreadsheet of who is buying what, or just get down to assigning costs.For example, Ted always buys the toilet paper, and Sally always gets the laundry detergent. Confusion when it comes to finances is often what leads to fighting, so if you already have a set routine, you can avoid some arguments that might arise.The most common extreme is the one most of us are familiar with.This is the (usually) monogamous beta male who showers his gal with cash, loans, gifts, romantic dates, food, drinks, trips, clothes, jewelry, and in more extreme cases, more expensive things like cars, fake boobs, expensive handbags, and the like.